Breaking up and moving out: at first it seems like a big thing to do and it is. It takes a lot of courage to decide to move on with your life as a single person and confidence that you can make it on your own. And you can. Although it may look almost impossible for you to live without the other person if things are not going well with your relationship in some cases it is better to say goodbye. It is understandable the strong emotions you are going through in this moment and hopefully these tips can help you cope and feel better when moving out after a break up or divorce. Try to get yourself organized – this will also surely help.
Break up and Moving out – Current Situation
After the decision for separation or divorce has been taken perhaps both of you feel upset and angry from the course of circumstances. Beginning a new relationship is a moment of new hopes and dreams and when this time seems to be coming to its end its like you are not sure as to what to do and how to move on. Although it may not seem logical for you at this point of time consider this: making a new start is a new opportunity for you for new dreams and new things to explore in life! So the first thing you need to do when you have decided on breaking up is give yourself time to cope, accept what is happening and find emotionally a place of better feeling thoughts. Try to find something positive in your life, every day, even the smallest thing would do, and in just a few days you will surely feel at least a bit better. In the meantime plan how to move out after a break up and discuss the situation with your (already) ex partner. The key to success here is try to stay as calm and reasonable as possible – in this way even if the other person is feeling very aggravated you may be able to influence a less negative and more positive outcome of the situation.
How to Move out after a Break up
When two people are separating it is necessary for the quicker healing of both of you that one of you or both move out. This will give you a chance to make your new start in life and get better. Once the decision for separation has been firmly taken don’t take your time and move out as soon as possible in order to avoid the possibility of more negative feelings.
Moving out when You Break up
Moving out when you break up will be simpler if first of all you talk through the common belongings that you have. Although you may not wish to bring up the question of finances at this point – you should. This will give you the opportunity to move on.Talk about the common lease that you have, payments that you are making and common bank accounts. It is always best to get these things sorted out just the two of you, without involving anyone else like attorneys or even worse – getting things to court. Then sit down and discuss with the other person the ownership of the things at your common living place – who gets to have what, and try to reach upon an agreement on everything. If you can’t decide on some things you may prefer to organize a moving sale and sell them and just then split the cash.
Moving out Costs and Moving Companies
In the meantime try to estimate the possible costs of moving out. Decide if you are going to pack yourself or you will need a moving company to do that for you. Definitely don’t ask your ex partner to pack because you don’t know afterwards in what condition you will find your belongings – you better do it yourself. In case you find this task difficult get a friend or relative to help you. If you don’t want to do it at all, get quotes to see how much movers will charge you for that. Letting a moving company pack your belongings may be the best decision – in this way you can stay out of your still common home and give time to your wound to heal while the experts do the job. Movers know how to take care of your belongings so your things are in good hands with them. After that, arrange a moving day with the movers. It would be least painful for both of you if you move out when the other person is not there. However, if he/ she insists to be present in order to make sure you are not taking something that is not yours ask a friend to be around – this will give you moral support and will probably influence your ex to show a little better behavior during the moving out process. Having someone around can make moving out after divorce or break up an easier process.
In case your ex is moving out show the behavior you would like to experience if it was you: make room and let the person go by not showing up during the time when he/ she is packing and leaving. If you are concerned about your things getting broken or taken, again just ask someone to be there, it should be of course a trustworthy person, like a common friend you can both rely on.
Moving out and Moving on when You are Breaking up
In the meantime look for a new place to stay. You may feel better to stay on a friend’s couch or at relatives temporarily so you won’t be alone until you actually get to find a new home for you. In any case search for your friends to be there for you. It is not advisable to go through break ups alone. Friends can help you get through this. Just keep going and everything will be fine. Hopefully these tips here will help you. Either way, don’t let yourself soak up in negative emotions as they come out – focus on the new opportunities lying ahead of you and the new chance in life that you are getting to have. What better moment to make all new wonderful things about yourself than now? Don’t hesitate to take all the necessary action to make new and more beautiful things in your life and keep stress away. Moving out and breaking up does not have to be a bad end when it can be a good beginning.
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